Monday, September 13, 2010

Making choice for happy life

With all people be different in the world and with different individual priorities it is still highly important for each and every of us to be happy in life. Numerous researches were done in order to find out what to do in life and how to live it happy...

Basically there is one common rule - start do things that make you happy and satisfied. It is very easy say, but on practice this can mean so many different things, and they all can have different consequences and often other than being happy. What I mean by that is - would you consider that person has freedom just because he/she killed somebody for no reason and got in jail??? or would you consider someone happy when she/he has absolutely no regard to the society around and would spend all the time in solitude....

I think, life, like everything else in life has its rules. Making every next choice how do we know that it would make us happy and would have consequences we want.
It is nearly impossible to predict beforehand all possible alternatives for one or other choice. There is an old story, telling:” My son broke his leg. Is it good or bad? Suddenly war started. Every male was taken to war, except him. Is it good or bad?” Unfortunately there is no way to live life one more time or to see what would happen if....

So, how to make right choices for happy life?
Write down on the list of paper; let’s say 5 things that you absolutely must have in your life
. For example, you would think your life is dull without friends, or you think - there is no living without hot bath every week, or maybe happiness of your children/parents is absolute priority for you. Put on paper 5 primary things that are highly important in life, something that makes you very happy when you do it or simply something you want to have.

Did you get all 5???? It is hard to think of them for the beginning, but as soon as you start, things will be clearer to you. Your true values will come up and it will be easier to make decisions, plan. Don’t forget to put those 5 things in priorities. Some things are more important for you than others, make sure you give it deserved acknowledgement.

As soon as you are ready and set, you can make decisions now. For example - should I take this job offer in Thailand? Well, let’s see what is in my list. For example - friends, family, travel to Europe, climbing, and hot tea with milk near fireplace. So let’s see now:
Friends - I like and value friends that I have here, and I am not sure if I would be able to find new one, as good as this ones.
Family - Thailand is far away, I would not be able to visit my parents so often
Travel to Europe –I really would like to visit as much of it this year but it is far from Thailand
Climbing - Thailand is one of the best places for climbing
Hot tea with milk near fireplace - it is like 0% chance happening in Thailand.

So it is 2 strong against, one is strong for, and 2 like 50% 50%. Family is more important for me then anything else...I better take 5 weeks off from work and go travel to Thailand rather then taking this job.

Example I gave is very easy. Of course real life is much harder, and it is much more complicated. Still in this way you will be more directed on happiness with higher chance of succeeding!

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